Permissive parents are those who do not set any boundaries and offer complete freedom of choice and support those choices even if they do not agree with them. They tend to avoid conflicts at all costs and equate happy children with successful parenting
Permissive parents acknowledge and value their kid’s individuality and provide positive reinforcement and nurturing environment.
Advantages of Permissive Parenting:
The most important benefit of permissive parenting is that kids become independent and responsible with their own decisions.
Kids who are raised by permissive parents are happy and hence have lesser psychological issues. Kids are free to pursue what they want and hence develop creativity and are more confident.
Disadvantages of Permissive Parenting:
Permissive parents do not push their children to work hard hence these kids tend to grow up to be under performers.
Kids are trained to working in their own manner and hence are not able to handle pressure and hard work needed to survive in the modern world.
Balancing both the parenting styles:
You can enjoy the benefits of both the patterns and avoid the problems associated with each of them by finding the right balance.
Here are a few suggestions to follow the right parenting style:
- When kids are young before preteens - and still dependent authoritarian parenting can be followed while in their teenage years kids have an increased self direction, being a little lenient helps in forming a good parent child bonding.
- Choose your parenting style according to your child’s personality. If your child show’s talent but is not a self starter then you would need to be more controlling till he develops his talent and gets confident while if you notice that you kid takes timely action, then being permissive would be a better option.
- Do not let your permissiveness set impressions on your child that average success or mediocrity is acceptable. Always appreciate their efforts but suggest that excellence is expected from their performance.
- Nurture your child’s intellectual, social, emotional and physical wellbeing. Children raised with a well balanced parenting style acquire a genuine sense of self value.
Raising a child needs different parenting approach with respect to the kid’s age. If parents discuss and set age appropriate limits, it make the kids less demanding, more self controlled, and independent as they go through middle childhood and adolescence says Well Known Psychologist,Dr Pavan Sonar.
Verdict- Authoritarian parenting vs permissive parenting
Dr Pavan Sonar says, “There are different parenting style and each has its own set of advantages and disadvantages and sticking to just one principle and one style is definitely Not the best way to raise your child. It is important to balance both the parenting styles and most importantly shower unconditional love and communicate with them to understand their feelings and accordingly choose your parenting style.”
Parenting is not about trying to shield your kids from setbacks, disappointments and the unfairness of life, it is about preparing them to deal with it. It is also not about compromise or letting down each other in their approach, it is about combining them. Though it may seem tricky but you need to be tough and nurturing.
A correct parenting style can nurture good parent child relations and help in the overall development of the kid.