Though there are some things which you must never forget to do while in bed with your “special someone”, there are still others which you must simply avoid, as these can spell disaster for a happening love life!
Here is a list of the strict no-no’s while in bed:
1. Ignoring foreplay:
Foreplay is an important and a much needed aspect of love making. Physical foreplay is about warming your partner up. It’s about stimulating your bodies in indirect ways. It’s an assurance to your partner that you love and enjoy their body and a way of telling how much you want to make love to them. Simply going to the main act, may seem being either too desperate or mechanical. An exciting foreplay is best to keep the fire in your sex life burning and can be a great energy booster leading to the main act. While you may want to hush up to the climax, your partner (especially women) may want more of the foreplay.
2. Don’t sleep over a fight:
Your bedroom is your haven. It’s where you fight, you mend, you play, have sex, and simply be yourself! But the problem, arises when you sleep over a long argument you had with your partner. The worst thing you can do in bed is to leave an argument unsolved while going to bed, it can sour your relationship with your partner. Try watching a comedy movie together in bed, to ease out the phase, take the initiative to get close to your partner and whisper, “I love you”, it a guarantee that the tension cools and there is enough room for you both to talk out the issue amicably.
3. Replicating your porn movie:
Expecting your partner to do things which you saw your favourite porn star do in the porn movie you had last seen, is asking for too much. Remember, your partner is not that person in the movie, and respect your partner’s individuality and preferences. You cannot expect them to do what they otherwise would not want to. Explore the kinds of positions that work best with both of you and which you both mutually enjoy! It’s important for you both to communicate your fantasies to your partners while respecting their needs.
4. Climaxing too early. Too late:
Reaching the orgasm too early, can leave your partner unsatisfied. Try to sustain erection, but at the same time, do also know that too an orgasm that takes too much time, can be equally annoying and frustrating for your partner and it can lead to a loss of interest in the act. Also, it is equally important to convey to your partner and keep them informed of the time you are about to reach an orgasm as it would keep your partner mentally prepared.
5. Physically present, mentally absent:
When in the act, make sure you are physically as well as mentally present. If you are into thinking of something else, like what happened at work, or what was the day’s news, or even something as small as looking at the watch while literally in the act, can be a big put off and may seem as though you are more mechanical than emotional in the act. It can not only be an embarrassment, but also an insult, making your partner feel that you do not enjoy the touch!
