You had been longing for this day! Finally she said yes, and you just can’t wait to see her at the spruced up lawn of the uptown three star, with fresh flowers at the table for two, and soft music playing in the background.
God knows how many times, you have fidgeted with your tie and hair, and you are as nervous as you have never even been on your first interview.
So, now that this is your big day, we consider it our pleasure to help you with certain basic things that every girl would NOT like to hear, and especially not on her first date!
Chances are that you are new to this, a first timer probably, and have never even looked up to a girl before. She is your first date and you don’t want to screw up. You are going weak in your knees and by the time she comes, you probably would be drained of anxiety!
It drives women nuts when an otherwise attractive man screws up when it comes to conversation. They don’t need you to be a brilliant conversationalist; they just want a man who can hold up his end of a discussion and who appears to care about something other than sports and orgasms.
Don’t fret buddy, you have now come to the right place, thank your stars that you reading this before your date! And for those who already have screwed up before, this is the lesson you learn and keep in mind for your next date, so as to not make the blooper a second time. Here are some such statements that a guy must never say, when he first meets a woman.
“So, about the company and my project records...”
So, you are the famous guy from the IIT’s and the only one in your college to bag a job at Infosys through campus placement. And now your profile includes the big project from a MNC, and you have a promotion due next month and you are your boss’s blue eyed boy….
Oh man! Give it a break! Of course she knows you are well educated and about the company you work in, and now she wants to talk about some other lighter things, so please, save the specifics. The more you go on about your job, car, life, the more she would want to rush home—alone. Instead, ask her a few questions about herself, or at least pretended to be interested in her life.
“You’re thinner/healthier than I imagined”
Alright! You are neither her gym instructor nor a fitness expert, so don’t come across as one. She has agreed for a date not to be insulted. Moreover, women don’t like comments about their bodies from strangers. You might as well, tell her that she’s looking nice, and she is sure to blush pink with joy, and this way you also break the ice for a more pleasant evening.
“Let me guess, you are a Punjabi? No, Gujrati? Errr.. Sindhi for sure, right?”
This is one line that makes you look like you have already planned a meet with parents, then engagement, then marriage and even the language your kids will speak officially and unofficially. Relax Boy! And know that language, caste, creed don’t matter if your love is strong! (what a filmy dialogue!). Yet, if curiosity gets the better of you, simply ask her and avoid going on a guessing spree. She hates it when men try to guess where she’s from.
“You have the most beautiful eyes I have ever seen”
You say it, and you are screwed! This is one famous line, which our parents and grandparents must have used too, while they were dating. And recognizing your lineage right when you are on a date, twenty years after, is not a good idea after all.
Remember that women want men who are good at conversing, men who can think, who have opinions and who are aware of what’s going on. Be original and intrigue her.
“Dhan te nan te nan te nan”
The combination of drinks and dates seldom goes well, and especially when it’s a first date, then risks are many. Women are usually more comfortable spending time with men who are averse to drinks and smoke, but sip as occasions demand. But when it comes to a stranger who a woman is meeting for the first time, drinks are not even the last thing on her mind. She is off her mind when she sees you with the glass in your hand, probably wants to run away as soon as possible. So, If you’re drunk, please don’t chitchat. Nothing is worse than beer breath spewing out of a man who can’t stand up straight.
“Are you a divorcee?”
She is probably not comfortable discussing her personal life stories with you the first time, and maybe she will pour out to you on subsequent meetings. Now, that you both are getting to know each other and having a nice time don’t bring up issues that are heavy on the heart and very personal in nature. When she’s having fun, her divorce is the last thing she wants to discuss. Talk about interests, passions, knowledge, current affairs, and everything else that makes for an interesting conversation. But remember, don’t brag.
“My Ex was just like you”
Please pretend your ex doesn’t exist. You are actually insulting your date by making her feel that she reminds you of your Ex. This is the last thing your date wants to know, and it’s better to keep it that way, at least for now. As you both get to know each other better, you can confide in her, as by then you both would understand each other better and your relation would have crossed the infant stage and stepped into maturity.
“Let’s go to my place”
This one statement can play the spoiler and can turn things sour between you too. All the arrangements you made in the evening, the dinner, the flowers, the ambience, the feel everything can go for a toss, when you plunge into the act of inviting her to your bedroom. Please know that if a woman wants to sleep with you, she’ll give you cues. If she really can’t hold back, she’ll ask you to her place. But if you come up with this sad trick to woo her, she would instead walk away, never to return.
Yes, we understand that going out with someone for the first time can be nerve wracking as well as exciting. But now that you know what to talk and what to keep, we don’t think you should waste any time. Simply, dress in your favorites, and show her that you do care. Simply, be true to yourself, and the rest will follow naturally!
