Women, we have for long, longed for ‘him’, a knight in a shining armor to come and whisk us off our feet, we have imagined ‘him’ to say sweet nothings to us, bring us gifts and rescue us from ‘things and places.’ Generally we have expected men to take the lead- flirt, flatter and woo us while we are busy being flirted with, flattered and wooed… The same passive attitude follows as far as sex is concerned..
Come on girls, do you really believe that sex is only to be enjoyed by men? There is no need to be passive and frankly ‘I have a headache’ does not work anymore! Why be passive in this one area when you clearly have the reins in all the other areas of your relationship! So here is our attempt to get you back in the game. To ensure that you enjoy it as much as he does, so that you no longer shy away from sex and take a more active interest in it.
Don’t shy away
When we don’t flinch from taking new challenges at work or handling a new project alone, why do we shy when ‘sex’ enters the conversation? Isn’t this century about liberation? When you are liberated in every other way, getting bolder in bed is the next step.
How to do it?
- Don’t wait for him to take the first step; you can make the move first too.
- Seduce him; take a lead once in a while. You will even surprise yourself by enjoying it so much.
Surprise him!
If your taking the first step doesn’t surprise him, then this will. Play out your fantasies. Do something that you always wanted to but were too shy to even say aloud.
How to do it?
Come home early and wear his favorite dress, light up the candles and prepare the room and then enjoy the look he bears when he sees this.
Express your desires
Expressing your desires is the first step in enjoying yourself in your intimate times.
How to do it?
Express when you want to do it, when you don’t, how you want him to behave and if he is doing it right! It is as much about you as it is about him.
Take aid
Disinterested in sex? Have a low sex drive? Suffering from Low libido? Don’t worry, you don’t have to think of excuses and avoid sex, there are a lot of solutions that are available for you. Consult your gynecologist to know what you can do to get your sex drive back; the common solutions are lubricants, libido enhancement pills and hormone replacement therapy. If the problem isn’t physiological but psychological, you need to work with your partner to get it right.
How to do it?
- Accept the problem and be open to seek solutions.
- Consult your doctor for medicines.
- Attend sex counseling if the problem is mental.
Intimacy is the real thing
For women, it is the emotion that plays an important part to perform in bed. When you are truly happy in your relation, you have a great sex life, when there are cracks in your relationship, the sex life goes through a lean period too. So to get your sex life in order, you need to work on your relationship. Talk to your partner, spend more time together, go out for a dinner, just the two of you and see the difference. When you are in tune with your partner, sex is no longer a chore and you both enjoy it completely.
3 No- No’s: Here are three factors you need to avoid, in order to enjoy a healthy sex life:
Alcohol- Though alcohol is often credited to break those inhibitions, too much of alcohol is actually a sex drive killer. It reduces your energy and can kill the passion in you. Keep away from the bottle and stick to a glass of wine only!
Cigarettes- Cigarettes and Sex don’t go together. Smoking also kills your libido by messing up with your hormones. Worse, smoking leads to irregular menstrual cycles and increases the risk of giving birth to premature and low weight babies.
Stress- Do you think you can enjoy sex if you are worrying about your promotion? Do you think anxiety about your child’s admission is helping your sex drive? As women, we are busy handling our household duties as work commitments and though we are known to be good multitaskers, handling so many things can result in lack of energy and a lot of stress. Only by relaxing and letting go of all worries can you and your partner enjoy your intimate moments together….
Now that you know, how to start and how to go on, do not wait for ‘him’ to make a move. Surprise him, woo him and seduce him, let him be the passive one, once in a while. He will like it too!
