Before we go any further, let us be clear on what this article is not, it is not an article to help you look good on the 31st, this will not tell you how to get a date for the New Year, it will not give you tips on how to drink without getting drunk or how to party….
Wait, what is that look on your face? You are wondering what this article can be possibly about. This article will ask you to start a change and start with yourself. No, we are not talking of resolutions that you keep every year and which are forgotten without even a single possible moment spent to work towards it. We are talking of using the opportunity to forget the old and start a new. New Year really is an opportunity to forget what sins we did last year and start working on a blank slate, perhaps to commit new sins…..
Bye to the Old You and Hi to the New You
There are many things about yourself that you think need to change and like all projects with no deadlines, these things never get done. What happens is- the small traits that are not doing us much good end up staying for good and we start identifying ourselves with them.
New Year or the 31st, is the perfect day for you to say adios to all those things about you, (remember not your spouse or your friend but about yourself) that annoy you and keep you down and embrace all the good things that you really want to.
So where to begin? Before you make a list of all the things that you want to change, remember this is an opportunity to not start sulking over the parts that you are not proud of but just replace them with parts you will be glad to have.
Be Kind to yourself
We all think that is essential to be good to people and most of the times, we are kind to others. The problem lies with the fact that we often are not kind to ourselves.
We easily forgive mistakes committed by others, but hardly even get accept our own fallacies. We cater to everyone else’s needs but fail to even acknowledge our own. Anybody will tell you that this is just not fair. Start by being kinder to yourself by not torturing yourself when you do wrong but just accepting and learning from it and appreciating your own efforts when you do good.
Nurture a Hobby
You would probably respond to this saying that you don’t have time. But when it is something you love, can you honestly say that out of all the time you can’t spend an hour or so for your hobby? Do anything you like from making a scrapbook, to writing your observations, playing a guitar and repairing old radios. The only thing that matters is that you should love to do it…
Start saying ‘No’
We all should really start doing this. We feel that saying ‘no’ is being rude to someone and makes you look bad in their eyes. But probably, saying no will be kinder to him and you. When you do something unwillingly the task suffers along with you. So instead of doing the task as a favor, do the person a favor by saying no.
You will also be seen as being more honest than just a people pleaser. When you respect your own wishes then there is no reason why you will feel exploited or unappreciated.
Smile more often
This is not said assuming that you don’t smile enough; the point is that smile really has a magical effect in all circumstances. You should not only smile when things are pleasant but also be smiling when the things are not necessarily sunny. This will not only lighten the atmosphere around you but also help you deal with the situation in a better way. Now, we are not advising laughter when the situation is grim but a little bit of fortitude is all we ask…
Also smiles are contagious, when you smile at a stranger, he will acknowledge with his own and slowly you are spreading cheer all around you.
