"While people love to make wisecracks about it, few will actually admit to doing it"
What is that which people don’t talk about, but almost everyone does it? Some think it is sinful, while others take it as a natural way of pleasing oneself. Since ages it has been associated with various different ailments, but research has it that it does more good than bad. It is wrongly thought to be bad, and is pleasurable, no doubt.
Yes, we are talking about Masturbation which refers to sexual stimulation leading to an orgasm not involving sexual intercourse.
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Sometimes you or your partner isn't in the mood for sex. Maybe she's pregnant or has gained weight or maybe he is too worked up and work has him stressed. Especially if you don't have time for a long, intimate night, then at such times, mutual masturbation is a great option, and the more you do it, the better you become at learning.
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If you don't have a partner or if sex with your partner isn't available, or if you want to abstain from sex for any reason, you vent out yourself, and feel great! In this way, masturbation allows a person to express sexuality in various situations.
Why the guilt?
But there is something that keeps Masturbation from being tagged “good” in the society and keeps those who practice it, from admitting that they do. It is only recently that society has started to let go of its guilt around solo sex. This is in part thanks to sex researchers affirming that a little time spent alone in soothing oneself, is perfectly healthy for an individual and a national study recorded up to 94% of men and 89% of women have masturbated in their lives.
All the more, it is important to unveil the myths around masturbation and bring out the health and sexual benefits that it offers, which not many know of. Ignorance pertaining to the benefits of “solo –sex” has bred shyness and pretense in the Indian society.
The positives of Masturbation:
- Men, No more Embarrassment for you
Masturbation also helps combat premature ejaculation. If you can train yourself to last longer and can practice control when solo, you'll last longer with her and make her feel much happier and satisfied. Also, for men, regular flushing of the system, keeps semen healthy and prevents the buildup of cancer-causing chemicals.
- Prevents the development of Prostate cancer
Frequent masturbation by males helps in preventing the development of prostate cancer. As per a research summarized in a 2007 article in Sexual and Relationship Therapy, masturbation may help men by building their resistance to prostate gland infections.
- Ladies, listen up and please thyself
A popular myth pertaining to masturbation has been that girls don't masturbate. The fact is that girls and women do masturbate, and all the more, masturbation eases symptoms of premenstrual syndrome in women and helps in building their resistance to yeast infections. It also relieves painful menstruation by increasing the blood flow to the pelvic region and reduces pelvic cramping and related backaches. It increases a lady’s threshold for pain and very importantly, it prevents unwanted pregnancy.
Ladies and Gentlemen: Here are the most important health and sexual benefits that makes masturbation guilt free and a “pleasing” experience for both,:
- Get to Know yourself, and go on to enjoy sex
Firstly, the more you know about what satisfies you solo, the more pleasure you get from sex. Masturbation can be empowering, especially by helping you to feel better about your body and sexual response. When you please yourself, you know what you best enjoy and you actually deliver some of your most intense orgasms ever. And acknowledging this “peak” when alone, can help you recreate the same with your special someone. Masturbation helps you in knowing what turns you on thereby making you ready to enhance your sex life in general and turning you into a better lover.
When you have multiple sexual partners, there is a risk of contracting a sexually transmitted infection, which is absent if you are pleasing yourself.
Since years, masturbation has been webbed around many myths. It has been said that masturbation is accompanied with side effects and various diseases. But contrary to popular myths, the fact remains that masturbation does not result in any ailments, nor does it lead to acne, warts, hair on the palm, insanity or blindness.
- Overall physical and mental wellbeing
Masturbation promotes the release of endorphins (neurotransmitters that are associated with happy feelings), and relieves stress and depression. It keeps your body — including the heart rate, blood pressure, reproductive system, brain chemistry — in very good shape.
- Gives a sound sleep and also burn calories
Besides strenuous exercises and exhaustive diet- lists, there is an interesting and pleasurable way of losing weight and that is Masturbation. Besides, it is also known to be a natural sedative for inducing sound sleep.
Stimulating each other at the same time is intimate, and allows both of you to learn more about what the other likes, which in turn translates to hotter sex. Masturbating together will build your relation and see you into old age.
How frequent should one be?
Frequency of masturbation is a common concern of many. Normal range of masturbating can be several times per week or month. The repetitive act is not a problem. The only concern is that it should not be linked with an obsessive compulsive disorder, where a person has an urge to perform it over and over again, and neglect his/her social life. The more frequently a man masturbates between the ages of 20 and 50, the less likely they are to get prostate cancer.
But masturbation can get overpowering if
It is interfering with your sleep or work, in which case you need to see a therapist.
It is interfering with your relationship, as you find it difficult to become aroused when with your partner, but you enjoy when you are alone.
You find it hard to climax during intercourse, as a result of too much masturbation.
Take home:
Now that it is a proven fact that masturbation is not unhealthy, rather, is exciting and fulfilling, provided one does not go overboard, it is not advisable to pass up sex for self-service.
