While a lot of office work may be to blame for your short temper, it is not beyond your control. The very first step towards controlling your impulses is to recognize the cause and then work towards it. The best thing is to drive your anger in a positive way, and simply learn to:
Understand what makes you angry and work towards it.
- Know that you are angry, Keep calm:
Let the moment fade away. Your fit of rage can subside substantially once you simply keep quiet and control anger within.
Water helps. It dissolves the temper that is boiling your blood and then you cool down to think about things in a more practical and rational way.
Your anger cannot be caused to you by anybody else but yourself. Many a times we say that it is because someone did that way that we got angry and reacted in this way. We tend to blame it on others and try to escape responsibility.
Anger or unhappiness is nothing but the distance between what you have and what you want. It is when you walk this distance with a cool mind that the journey becomes interesting and the destination comes closer.
- Don’t get your ego at work:
Keep your ego at home. In office you are working towards a common goal with all your colleagues in a team. There may be differences of opinions and counter arguments, and if you are too sensitive to take criticism, you will never be happy at work. You would face mental and emotional exhaustion and eventually burnout.
- Sea, beaches, and loved ones:
When your pulse rate goes up, try thinking of something as soothing as a calm sea, greenery, your wife, your girlfriend…
This way you will know your mind, and you will be calmer.
Back counting will divert your mind and you will soon come to peace with yourself and reason things better.
